Holiday Grief – Help and Tips

The leaves are falling and Fall is in the air.  Halloween has come and gone. To your amazement, Christmas music is already playing and it is early November.  Getting ready for Christmas used to be your favorite thing to do:  i.e. cards, decorating, baking cookies for the grandchildren and planning that special gift for each person.


Now Christmas has become your most dreaded time of the year because your loved one is gone. You ask yourself, “How am I going to survive this year without him or her?”


There are hundreds of people in this same situation and here are some tips that worked over time:


  • Plan ahead for Christmas and what you want you to do this year.
  • Be sure to include important family members in making your decision so no one’s feelings get hurt.


  • Options to consider in your Christmas planning:
  • Do you want to do a traditional thing as always?
  • Do you want to change the tradition by adding something new?
  • Do you want to skip Christmas all together this year?
  • Do you want to celebrate the winter season by going on a trip or cruise?


  • Look at your priorities once you have made a decision on how you and your family want to celebrate Christmas.  Remember that everything doesn’t have to be perfect. Trying to be perfect doesn’t serve us and it can be very frustrating.


  • Let others help you with what you would like to have done.
  • If you can afford it, have dinner catered.
  • You can have a potluck with family and friends.
  • Go to someone else’s house for dinner.


  • Be sure to remember that we all go through the stages of grieving at a different pace. If you feel that you are stuck in a phase, please get help through a local support group or work with a professional counselor.


I am Diane Cunningham a certified Life & Dream Coach.  I work with Baby Boomers and anyone who is facing life’s challenges to create a more fulfilling life.  For more tips on the “Holiday Grief – Help and Tips” read and comment on my website Blog or attend my upcoming teleseminars.  If you need help I would love to help you!  For more information on how I can be of service to you, please email me at


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